Sometimes, the guy who you might think is “the one” really isn’t
after all.
That happens when
it comes to love and relationships. It happens quite a lot. It happens fairly
often. And the reason that it happens so much is that a lot of girls delude
themselves into thinking that their love is real. However, reality might have
something different to say about that.
Love is so
beautiful and amazing. Everyone wants to have love in their passions. However,
love isn’t always going to turn out the way that you want it to. And sometimes,
in your desperation, you might manufacture love out of thin air. That’s always
going to be a bad idea. Hence, you still want to make sure that the love you
share with another guy is real.
If you notice that a lot of the things that are
listed here apply to the man that you’re with, then you’re in bad luck. It’s
very much likely that he isn’t the one for you. And if that’s the case, you
should walk away. This isn’t going to be good for your state of well-being if
you stay with someone who isn’t “the one.” After all, what’s the point of love
if it isn’t real?
1. You don’t share the same opinion on kids.
You don’t have the same opinion on bearing
children. It’s essential that the two of you can agree on this matter. However,
if you don’t, then that could cause some severe friction in your relationship.
And for a lot of couples, this friction is not easy to recover from.
2. You don’t have a reliable system in
place for your relationship.
The two of you
haven’t defined the roles in your relationship. The two of you can’t seem to
agree on what you bring to the table in your relationship. And this can be a
problem because this can shake the chemistry between the two of you.
3. You don’t talk about new things
anymore.
You don’t have
quality conversations anymore at this point. When you have conversations, it’s
mostly circular. You keep on talking about the same things over and over again.
This means that you aren’t connecting anymore through your conversations.
4. You don’t share the same values.
You don’t share
similar values. Although, in most relationships, it’s okay for couples to have
disagreements now and then. But when your fundamental principles don’t align,
it can generate a lot of friction in the relationship moving forward.
5. You don’t have the same plans for the future.
When your plans
can’t seem to merge, then it’s going to be very hard to picture a future for
your relationship as well. Hence, it’s very likely that either one of you is
going to budge or the relationship collapses altogether.
6. You avoid having specific arguments.
The most active
couples aren’t those who don’t have arguments. The most active couples are
those who can have tough conversations and still come out on top. However, if
you avoid having discussions altogether, it shows how insecure you are about
your relationship as a whole.
7. You tell lies to one another.
You aren’t exactly
the most honest to one another in your relationship. It’s relatively common
whenever the two of you lie to each other. And that’s not what a relationship
should be made up of. After all, there should always be a healthy practice of
honesty in a relationship.
8. You hold each other back from your
dreams.
You should never
have to give up on your goals and dreams to be in a relationship with someone.
Your partner should be your number one supporter in your search for your ideas.
9. You drive each other crazy.
You’re in a
constant state of irritation whenever you are around one another. As a result
of your relationship, you are being driven crazy. The two of you can’t seem to
find any middle ground. Hence, you irritate the heck out of each other.
10. You are a worse person than before
because of your relationship.
When you’re in a
relationship with the right guy, then you should always be a better person than
before. Being with the one you’re meant to be with means you have someone who
pushes you to be better. However, if you are worse off, then you’re probably
not intended to be.
11. You aren’t happy.
And of course,
when you aren’t happy, then you know that you aren’t with the man that you’re
meant to be with. When you’re in love, you should never be unhappy. Happiness
should be a non-negotiable aspect of being in a romantic relationship.