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10 Things To Do To Avoid Heartbreak

You still want to be making sure that you aren’t opening yourself up to an immense amount of emotional pain.

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Heartbreak hurts. There’s just no amount of sugarcoating that anyone could do to make the experience easier to deal with. It sucks whenever you have your heart broken. It’s always going to be a tough ordeal that you would have to go through. However, it comes with the risk of falling in love. Whenever you want to open yourself up to the love of another person, you are also opening yourself up to the chance that you might get hurt.

However, there is a way for you to minimize the risk. Yes, you want to be opening yourself up to love. But that doesn’t mean that you should just completely let your guard down and allow yourself to recklessly get into a relationship with someone. You still want to be protecting yourself to the best of your abilities. You still want to be making sure that you aren’t opening yourself up to an immense amount of emotional pain.

Here are 10 things that you need to do in order to protect yourself better against heartbreak.

1. Learn to manage your expectations better.

You don’t want to be expecting the world from a relationship right away. You need to stay realistic with your expectations. The more overblown your expectations are, the likelier it is that you’re going to end up getting hurt.

2. Be honest and open about your expectations.

Now that you have set your own expectations for one another, it’s important that you be honest and open about them with each other. Your partner is not a mind-reader. And they’re not going to be able to fulfill your expectations unless you communicate it to them in a very clear and honest manner.

3. Be realistic about your chances.

You always want to be hopeful with whatever relationship you get yourself into. However, it can’t be blind optimism. You are only setting yourself up for failure if you blow your chances out of proportion.

4. Show a willingness to compromise.

You really need to be able to show a willingness to compromise whenever you’re dating someone. You have to understand that relationships are always going to require two people coming together and meeting each other halfway. And if you want to give your relationship a shot, you need to be willing to adjust a little bit.

5. Don’t have sex right away.

Okay. There are plenty of couples out there who have sex early in the relationship and are still able to make their relationships last. It’s perfectly possible to have sex early on and still have a long-term relationship with one another. However, when you have sex with someone early on, it can cloud your inhibitions. Sex can lead you to behave and assess things in a very biased manner that may not be good for you.

6. Be very vigilant of how they act in times of stress.

It’s so easy to be at your best whenever things are going well and as expected. However, a person’s true colors tend to really show whenever you put them in positions of stress or turmoil. So, pay attention to how your partner might be conducting themselves whenever they are put in stressful situations or scenarios.

7. Listen to what your friends and family have to say.

Always pay attention to what your family and friends have to say about your relationship. Naturally, you would always be the one who makes the final decision with regards to your love life. But you always want to be opening yourself up to an outsider’s perspective. They might be seeing a few things that you’re missing.

8. Don’t lose yourself in the honeymoon period.

Every relationship is always going to go through some kind of honeymoon period. And it’s always important that you recognize that. It’s okay for you to want to really enjoy your honeymoon period. However, you don’t want to be getting lost in it to the point that you actually believe that your relationship is perfect and is without its fair share of hitches or setbacks.

9. Check-in on one another regularly.

Learn to check in on one another on a regular basis with regards to your feelings and thoughts about the relationship. There are plenty of people out there who just keep their ill feelings and negative emotions to themselves. And what ends up happening is that it deteriorates the relationship even further. It can drive two people further apart.

10. Don’t be afraid to walk away.

If you know that things just aren’t right for you, then make sure that you find the strength and willpower to walk away. Be honest with yourself. If things just aren’t meant to be, then there’s no point in forcing the issue. Don’t invest yourself further and further into something that you know isn’t going to last anyway.

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1,500 give all the relationship advice you’ll ever need

The relationship quotes given by 1500 men to educate all other men about successful relationships.

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Hey, guess what? I got married two weeks ago. And like most people, I asked some of the older and wiser folks around me for a couple quick words of relationship advice from their own marriages to make sure my wife and I didn’t shit the (same) bed. I think most newlyweds do this — ask for relationship advice, I mean, not shit the same bed part — especially after a few cocktails from the open bar they just paid way too much money for.

But, of course, not being satisfied with just a few wise words, I had to take it a step further.

See, I have access to hundreds of thousands of smart, amazing people through my site. So why not consult them? Why not ask them for their best relationship/marriage advice? Why not synthesize all of their wisdom and experience into something straightforward and immediately applicable to any relationship, no matter who you are or how sick of his/her shit you are?

Why not crowdsource THE ULTIMATE RELATIONSHIP GUIDE TO END ALL RELATIONSHIP GUIDES™ from the sea of smart and savvy partners and lovers here?

So, that’s what I did. I sent out the call the week before my wedding: anyone who has been married for 10+ years and is still happy in their relationship, what lessons would you pass down to others if you could? What is working for you and your partner? And if you are divorced, what didn’t work previously?

The response was overwhelming. Almost 1,500 people replied, many of whom sent in responses measured in pages, not paragraphs. It took almost two weeks to comb through them all, but I did. And what I found stunned me…

They were incredibly repetitive.

That’s not an insult or anything. Actually, it’s kind of the opposite. Not to mention, a relief. These were all smart and well-spoken people from all walks of life, from all around the world, all with their own histories, tragedies, mistakes and triumphs…

And yet they were all saying pretty much the same dozen things.

Which means that those dozen or so things must be pretty damn important… and more importantly, they work.

Here’s what they are.

1. BE TOGETHER FOR THE RIGHT REASONS

“Don’t ever be with someone because someone else pressured you to. I got married the first time because I was raised Catholic and that’s what you were supposed to do. Wrong. I got married the second time because I was miserable and lonely and thought having a loving wife would fix everything for me. Also wrong. Took me three tries to figure out what should have been obvious from the beginning, the only reason you should ever be with the person you’re with is because you simply love being around them. It really is that simple.”

– Greg

Before we even get into what you should do in your relationship, let’s start with what not to do.

When I sent out my request to readers for advice, I added a caveat that turned out to be illuminating. I asked people who were on their second or third (or fourth) marriages what they did wrong. Where did they mess up?

By far, the most common answer was “being with the person for the wrong reasons.”

Some of these wrong reasons included:

  • Pressure from friends and family.
  • Feeling like a “loser” because they were single and settling for the first person that came along
  • Being together for image — because the relationship looked good on paper (or in photos), not because the two people actually admired each other.
  • Being young and naive and hopelessly in love and thinking that love would solve everything.

As we’ll see throughout the rest of this article, everything that makes a relationship “work” (and by work, I mean that it is happy and sustainable for both people involved) requires a genuine, deep-level admiration for each other. Without that mutual admiration, everything else will unravel.

The other “wrong” reason to enter into a relationship is, like Greg said, to “fix” yourself. This desire to use the love of someone else to soothe your own emotional problems inevitably leads to co-dependence, an unhealthy and damaging dynamic between two people where they tacitly agree to use each other’s love as a distraction from their own self-loathing. We’ll get more into co-dependence later in this article, but for now, it’s useful to point out that love, itself, is neutral. It is something that can be both healthy or unhealthy, helpful or harmful, depending on why and how you love someone else and are loved by someone else. By itself, love is never enough to sustain a relationship.

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CUTE RELATIONSHIP QUOTES FOR COUPLES

Relationship quotes make my heart feel better. Follow the rules. Hope you like them.

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1. There are lots of people who can call you by your name but there is only one person who can make it sound so special. – Kim Jarabelo

2. Love is a two-way street constantly under construction. – Carroll Bryant

3. Love: Two minds without a single thought. – Philip Barry

4. You’re my reflection, all I see is you. – Justin Timberlake

5. If I lost you I would cry, oh how I love you baby. – Ike and Tina Turner

6. Without you I would be so lost.

7. You are the compass that guides me in life.

8. We balance each other out so perfectly.

9. You have made me the man / woman that I am today.

10. Each contact with human being is so rare, so precious. One should reserve it.

“CUTE RELATIONSHIP QUOTES FOR COUPLES”

11. Through both the tears and the laughter, we are stronger than ever before.

12. I can’t wait to see where else our love will lead us.

13. You are even better than a knight in shining armor because you are real and I know that you were made just for me.

14. I am a better person because of you. You help me be the best person that I can be and you always encourage me to reach my full potential.

15. You are my rock, my home, and my everything.

16. I can’t wait to tell our love story to our children and our grandchildren one day.

17. You make me see the world in brighter colors when all I used to see before was dull shades of gray.

18. My life has been such a wonderful adventure since you came along.

19. Our life together is one for the history books.

20. Forget the fairy tales, I think our love story is the best one ever told.

21. Even after all this time you still make me weak in the knees.

22. I barely remember what I was doing with my life before you came along.

23. I have loved you since the moment I met you, and I will continue to love you endlessly.

24. I used to think I knew exactly what I wanted in the perfect soulmate. I was wrong, because you are even better than what I ever imagined.

25. The world can be a tough and confusing place, but I am glad that you are here with me to experience it.

26. To me, you are even more beautiful when you wake up in the morning with messy hair and no makeup than when you have spent an hour getting ready to get out. You are perfect and even more beautiful to me in your natural form.

27. I don’t care if we fight as long as we get to kiss and make up.

28. I love that I get to have you all to myself.

29. Cuddling with you is one of my most favorite things to do.

30. Sometimes we can disagree, but at the same time there is something perfect about you and me.

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50 Relationship Quotes to Reignite Your Love

This video about relationship will definitely make your heart soother

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Relationships are like the tides: they ebb and flow. And when that tide is high, it’s utter bliss—every moment is filled with smiles and laughter and tenderness. But if that tide starts to flow back out? Well, in those moments, you could probably use some much-needed inspiration—pearls of wisdom that will re-light the embers from some of the smartest people on the planet. That’s why we’ve compiled these 50 nuggets of truth—some harsh, many heartwarming—that are guaranteed to get your heart all aflutter once again.

“INSPIRATIONAL PICK-ME-UPS FOR ANY COUPLE WHICH SHOULD NEVER BE TAKEN FOR GRANTED.”

1 : “We are most alive when we’re in love.”

2 : “True love stories never have endings.”

3: “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”

4: “The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.”

5: “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”

6: “The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.”

7: “Love always cures people – both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it.”

8: “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”

9: “True love is not a hide and seek game: in true love, both lovers seek each other.”

10: “The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.”

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