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Infatuation vs Love – Understanding the Differences

Love comes with a lot of passion as well as intimacy. Love is also forgiving and extremely tolerant whereas infatuation invokes high levels of jealousy.

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Love and infatuation are intense emotions that a person feels for someone they fall for. However, most of the time these feelings often get muddled for each other. It can be challenging to explain the difference between infatuation and love especially when you are young, inexperienced in the romance and dating world and are impressionable.

While thinking of your romantic interest, you don’t really care whether it is love or infatuation, but it may be handy to know how to differentiate between the two. Let’s analyze the two in order to understand the difference between infatuation vs love.

Infatuation vs Love

Love

Love is when you care incredibly deeply and strongly about someone else. You support and wish them well; you are willing to sacrifice whatever you hold deeply for their sake. Love entails trust, emotional connection, intimacy, loyalty, understanding, and forgiveness. However, love takes some time to develop, and it does not happen instantly.

Infatuation

Infatuation is when you get swept off your feet and get lost and carried away by your romantic interest. The goosebumps you get every time you think or see the other person and how you smile when you are daydreaming about them is clear signs of infatuation. Infatuation vs love is clear when you become completely obsessed with someone and cannot take them out of your mind; and when they do not feel the same way you want the worst to happen to them.

Love is never painful nor does it hurt the other person but obsession and infatuation do. Also, falling in love, at first sight, may sound romantic but is not actually true- this feeling again is infatuation. There is nothing wrong with infatuation as long as it is healthy; which in most cases develop into true and long-lasting love.

Comparison chart to explain Love vs Infatuation

Infatuation Love
Symptoms Intensity, urgency, sexual desire, reckless abandonment of what you valued once Faithfulness, loyalty, willingness to make sacrifices, compromise, confidence
Person To Person It is a reckless commitment in order to fulfill one’s lust It is a genuine commitment where you think about the other person before
Feels Like It is an all-consuming euphoria that is similar to using a drug. It is a deep affection, confidence, and contentment towards one another.
Effect Under full control of the brain’s chemistry, not the heart The effect of love is contentment and stability
Time Period It is fast and furious like a forest fire and burns out quickly as well leaving behind emptiness Love deepens as time passes and nothing and no one has the power to burn it out
Bottom Line Infatuation is a delusional feeling Love is unconditional and the real deal

Symptoms of true Love vs Infatuation

The first and foremost sign of being infatuated is that you want that person to be around all the time. This can also sometimes be related to sexual desire. Other symptoms include jealousy, anxiety and even panic attacks.

Love, however, can start with lust and infatuation but over time it becomes deep and emotional. Symptoms of love include an emotional attachment with a particular person, feeling of affection and confidence along with immense trust.

Infatuation vs Love; Difference in attributes

The main difference in love vs infatuation is that love can happen without you having any conscious intention. For this reason, pure love does not expect anything back in return. Infatuation, however, comes with a strong feeling of passion. It starts with intense physical attraction and then concentrates on excitement to be around that person.

Love comes with a lot of passion as well as intimacy. Love is also forgiving and extremely tolerant whereas infatuation invokes high levels of jealousy. Infatuation also induces impatience in a person whereas love is very patient.

The difference in the feeling of Infatuation vs Love

To sum up the entire difference between these two feelings you can understand it via infatuation vs love quotes. One such quote that makes everything clear is:

“Infatuation is when you dream of everything that should be with you, and then you wake up incredibly disappointed and realize that it wasn’t real. Love is when you have intense nightmares of losing what you already have and so when you wake up; you breathe a sigh of relief thanking God that it was only a dream.”

In a nutshell

Even though pure and true love between two people can only develop in long term commitments and relationships, in rare cases infatuation can lead to such a strong connection. Even though true love is a feeling of closeness between two people and is mutual, infatuation, on the other hand, produces a feeling of immense closeness, but these feelings are usually one-sided.

We hope that now all misconceptions you may have about infatuation vs love are clear.

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1,500 give all the relationship advice you’ll ever need

The relationship quotes given by 1500 men to educate all other men about successful relationships.

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Hey, guess what? I got married two weeks ago. And like most people, I asked some of the older and wiser folks around me for a couple quick words of relationship advice from their own marriages to make sure my wife and I didn’t shit the (same) bed. I think most newlyweds do this — ask for relationship advice, I mean, not shit the same bed part — especially after a few cocktails from the open bar they just paid way too much money for.

But, of course, not being satisfied with just a few wise words, I had to take it a step further.

See, I have access to hundreds of thousands of smart, amazing people through my site. So why not consult them? Why not ask them for their best relationship/marriage advice? Why not synthesize all of their wisdom and experience into something straightforward and immediately applicable to any relationship, no matter who you are or how sick of his/her shit you are?

Why not crowdsource THE ULTIMATE RELATIONSHIP GUIDE TO END ALL RELATIONSHIP GUIDES™ from the sea of smart and savvy partners and lovers here?

So, that’s what I did. I sent out the call the week before my wedding: anyone who has been married for 10+ years and is still happy in their relationship, what lessons would you pass down to others if you could? What is working for you and your partner? And if you are divorced, what didn’t work previously?

The response was overwhelming. Almost 1,500 people replied, many of whom sent in responses measured in pages, not paragraphs. It took almost two weeks to comb through them all, but I did. And what I found stunned me…

They were incredibly repetitive.

That’s not an insult or anything. Actually, it’s kind of the opposite. Not to mention, a relief. These were all smart and well-spoken people from all walks of life, from all around the world, all with their own histories, tragedies, mistakes and triumphs…

And yet they were all saying pretty much the same dozen things.

Which means that those dozen or so things must be pretty damn important… and more importantly, they work.

Here’s what they are.

1. BE TOGETHER FOR THE RIGHT REASONS

“Don’t ever be with someone because someone else pressured you to. I got married the first time because I was raised Catholic and that’s what you were supposed to do. Wrong. I got married the second time because I was miserable and lonely and thought having a loving wife would fix everything for me. Also wrong. Took me three tries to figure out what should have been obvious from the beginning, the only reason you should ever be with the person you’re with is because you simply love being around them. It really is that simple.”

– Greg

Before we even get into what you should do in your relationship, let’s start with what not to do.

When I sent out my request to readers for advice, I added a caveat that turned out to be illuminating. I asked people who were on their second or third (or fourth) marriages what they did wrong. Where did they mess up?

By far, the most common answer was “being with the person for the wrong reasons.”

Some of these wrong reasons included:

  • Pressure from friends and family.
  • Feeling like a “loser” because they were single and settling for the first person that came along
  • Being together for image — because the relationship looked good on paper (or in photos), not because the two people actually admired each other.
  • Being young and naive and hopelessly in love and thinking that love would solve everything.

As we’ll see throughout the rest of this article, everything that makes a relationship “work” (and by work, I mean that it is happy and sustainable for both people involved) requires a genuine, deep-level admiration for each other. Without that mutual admiration, everything else will unravel.

The other “wrong” reason to enter into a relationship is, like Greg said, to “fix” yourself. This desire to use the love of someone else to soothe your own emotional problems inevitably leads to co-dependence, an unhealthy and damaging dynamic between two people where they tacitly agree to use each other’s love as a distraction from their own self-loathing. We’ll get more into co-dependence later in this article, but for now, it’s useful to point out that love, itself, is neutral. It is something that can be both healthy or unhealthy, helpful or harmful, depending on why and how you love someone else and are loved by someone else. By itself, love is never enough to sustain a relationship.

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CUTE RELATIONSHIP QUOTES FOR COUPLES

Relationship quotes make my heart feel better. Follow the rules. Hope you like them.

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1. There are lots of people who can call you by your name but there is only one person who can make it sound so special. – Kim Jarabelo

2. Love is a two-way street constantly under construction. – Carroll Bryant

3. Love: Two minds without a single thought. – Philip Barry

4. You’re my reflection, all I see is you. – Justin Timberlake

5. If I lost you I would cry, oh how I love you baby. – Ike and Tina Turner

6. Without you I would be so lost.

7. You are the compass that guides me in life.

8. We balance each other out so perfectly.

9. You have made me the man / woman that I am today.

10. Each contact with human being is so rare, so precious. One should reserve it.

“CUTE RELATIONSHIP QUOTES FOR COUPLES”

11. Through both the tears and the laughter, we are stronger than ever before.

12. I can’t wait to see where else our love will lead us.

13. You are even better than a knight in shining armor because you are real and I know that you were made just for me.

14. I am a better person because of you. You help me be the best person that I can be and you always encourage me to reach my full potential.

15. You are my rock, my home, and my everything.

16. I can’t wait to tell our love story to our children and our grandchildren one day.

17. You make me see the world in brighter colors when all I used to see before was dull shades of gray.

18. My life has been such a wonderful adventure since you came along.

19. Our life together is one for the history books.

20. Forget the fairy tales, I think our love story is the best one ever told.

21. Even after all this time you still make me weak in the knees.

22. I barely remember what I was doing with my life before you came along.

23. I have loved you since the moment I met you, and I will continue to love you endlessly.

24. I used to think I knew exactly what I wanted in the perfect soulmate. I was wrong, because you are even better than what I ever imagined.

25. The world can be a tough and confusing place, but I am glad that you are here with me to experience it.

26. To me, you are even more beautiful when you wake up in the morning with messy hair and no makeup than when you have spent an hour getting ready to get out. You are perfect and even more beautiful to me in your natural form.

27. I don’t care if we fight as long as we get to kiss and make up.

28. I love that I get to have you all to myself.

29. Cuddling with you is one of my most favorite things to do.

30. Sometimes we can disagree, but at the same time there is something perfect about you and me.

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50 Relationship Quotes to Reignite Your Love

This video about relationship will definitely make your heart soother

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Relationships are like the tides: they ebb and flow. And when that tide is high, it’s utter bliss—every moment is filled with smiles and laughter and tenderness. But if that tide starts to flow back out? Well, in those moments, you could probably use some much-needed inspiration—pearls of wisdom that will re-light the embers from some of the smartest people on the planet. That’s why we’ve compiled these 50 nuggets of truth—some harsh, many heartwarming—that are guaranteed to get your heart all aflutter once again.

“INSPIRATIONAL PICK-ME-UPS FOR ANY COUPLE WHICH SHOULD NEVER BE TAKEN FOR GRANTED.”

1 : “We are most alive when we’re in love.”

2 : “True love stories never have endings.”

3: “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”

4: “The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.”

5: “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”

6: “The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.”

7: “Love always cures people – both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it.”

8: “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”

9: “True love is not a hide and seek game: in true love, both lovers seek each other.”

10: “The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.”

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